Lelaki Acuan Al-Quran ialah
Seorang Lelaki Yang Beriman
Yang Hatinya DisalutiRasa Taqwa Kepada Allah SWT
Yang Sentiasa Haus Dengan Ilmu
Yang Sentiasa Dahaga Dengan Pahala
Yang Solatnya Adalah Maruah Dirinya
Yang Tidak Pernah Takut Berkata Benar
Yang Tidak Pernah Gentar Untuk MelawanNafsu
Lelaki Acuan Al-Quran
Ialah Lelaki Yang Menjaga Tuturkatanya
Yang Tidak Bermegah Dengan Ilmu YangDimilikinya
Yang Tidak Bermegah Dengan Harta Dunia
Yang DicarinyaYang Sentiasa Berbuat Kebaikan
KeranaSifatnya Yang Pelindung
Yang Mempunyai Ramai Kawan Dan TidakMempunyai Musuh
Lelaki Acuan Al-Quran ialah
Lelaki Yang Menghormati Ibu bapanya
Yang Sentiasa Berbakti Kepada KeduaOrang Tua DanKeluarga
Yang Bakal Menjaga KeharmonianRumahtangga
Yang Akan Mendidik Anak-AnakDan Isteri Mendalami Agama IslamYang Mengamalkan Hidup PenuhKesederhanaan
Kerana Dunia Baginya AdalahRumah Sementara Menunggu Akhirat
Lelaki Acuan Al-Quran
Sentiasa Bersedia Untuk AgamanyaYang Hidup Di Bawah Naungan Al-Quran
Dan Mencontohi Sifat Rasulullah SAW
Yang Boleh Diajak Berbincang Danberbicara
Yang Sujudnya Penuh KesyukuranDengan Rahmat Allah Ke Atasnya
Lelaki Acuan Al-Quran Tidak PernahMembazirkan Masa
Yang Matanya Kepenatan Kerana KuatMembaca
Yang Suaranya Lesu Kerana Penat MengajiDan Berzikir
Yang Tidurnya Lena Dengan CahayaKeimanan
Yang Bangun Subuhnya Penuh DenganKecerdasan
Kerana Sehari Lagi Usianya BertambahPenuh Kematangan
Lelaki Acuan Al-Quran
SentiasaMengingati Mati
Yang baginya Hidup Di Dunia AdalahLadang Akhirat
Yang Mana Buah Kehidupan Itu PerluDibajai Dan DijagaMeneruskan Perjuangan Islam SebelumHariKemudian
Lelaki Acuan Al-Quran
Ialah Lelaki YangTidak Mudah TerpesonaDengan Buaian Dunia
Kerana Dia Mengimpikan Syurga
Di Situlah Rumah ImpiannyaBersama Wanita Acuan Al-Quran
Monday, April 30, 2007
SHAMED
Aduhai, setiap wanita dikurniakan ALLAHswt dengan sifat MALU,
Kerana MALU si wanita tahu menjagakehormatannya,
Kerana Malu si wanita tahu menilaibatas-batas sosialnya,
Kerana MALU juga si wanita gagaldiperdayakan pujukan nafsu,
Kini si wanita itu sudah hilangMALUnya,
Kerana hilang MALU itu terdedahlahauratnya lantas kehormatan dirinyatergadai,
Kerana hilang MALU itu si wanita gagalmenilai apa itu HARAM dan apa ituHALAL,
Kerana hilang MALU itu si wanita lemasdan hanyut dengan tipu daya nafsu,
Aduhai..setiap lelaki juga dikurniakanoleh ALLAH swt sifat malu,
Kerana MALU, si lelaki nasihatkan diridan si wanita agar bersama-sama jagamaruah diri dan MENJAGA AURAT,
Kerana MALU, si lelaki mengingatkandiridan si wanita tentang batas-batassosialpergaulan,
HALAL dan HARAM tu kena INGATI,
Kerana MALU itu, si lelaki menjaga danmendidik nafsunya,
JANGAN mengajak si wanita berbuat DOSA.
Selalu mengingatkan dengan berkata "TAKUTLAH AKAN ALLAH"Kina si lelaki sudah hilang MALUnya,
Kerana hilang MALU itu si lelakiMENGAJAK si wanita BERBUAT MUNGKAR,
Kerana hilang MALU itu si lelaki lupatentang HUKUM ALLAH swt,
Kerana hilang MALU itu si lelakimungkinhilang taraf khalifahi,
Sabda Rasulullah saw,SESUNGGUHNYA MALUITU ADALAH SEBAHAGIAN DARIPADA IMAN.
Wahai si wanita dan si lelaki janganlahmenzalimi diri dengan meletakkan MALUitu bukan pada tempatnya,
MALULAH kamu pada ALLAH swt keranaingkar akan suruhanNYA,
MALUlah kamu dengan RASULULLAH sawkerana meninggalkan sunahnya,
MALUlah kamu kerana lupa dan malasmembaca AL-QURAN,
MALUlah kamu kerana tidak menghormatiGURU,
MALUlah kamu kerana melawan kata IBUBAPA,
MALUlah kamu atas DOSA-DOSA kamu.
Maka percayalah bahawa MALU itu akanmenyelamatkan kita dari FAHSYAR danMUNGKAR!!!
Kerana MALU si wanita tahu menjagakehormatannya,
Kerana Malu si wanita tahu menilaibatas-batas sosialnya,
Kerana MALU juga si wanita gagaldiperdayakan pujukan nafsu,
Kini si wanita itu sudah hilangMALUnya,
Kerana hilang MALU itu terdedahlahauratnya lantas kehormatan dirinyatergadai,
Kerana hilang MALU itu si wanita gagalmenilai apa itu HARAM dan apa ituHALAL,
Kerana hilang MALU itu si wanita lemasdan hanyut dengan tipu daya nafsu,
Aduhai..setiap lelaki juga dikurniakanoleh ALLAH swt sifat malu,
Kerana MALU, si lelaki nasihatkan diridan si wanita agar bersama-sama jagamaruah diri dan MENJAGA AURAT,
Kerana MALU, si lelaki mengingatkandiridan si wanita tentang batas-batassosialpergaulan,
HALAL dan HARAM tu kena INGATI,
Kerana MALU itu, si lelaki menjaga danmendidik nafsunya,
JANGAN mengajak si wanita berbuat DOSA.
Selalu mengingatkan dengan berkata "TAKUTLAH AKAN ALLAH"Kina si lelaki sudah hilang MALUnya,
Kerana hilang MALU itu si lelakiMENGAJAK si wanita BERBUAT MUNGKAR,
Kerana hilang MALU itu si lelaki lupatentang HUKUM ALLAH swt,
Kerana hilang MALU itu si lelakimungkinhilang taraf khalifahi,
Sabda Rasulullah saw,SESUNGGUHNYA MALUITU ADALAH SEBAHAGIAN DARIPADA IMAN.
Wahai si wanita dan si lelaki janganlahmenzalimi diri dengan meletakkan MALUitu bukan pada tempatnya,
MALULAH kamu pada ALLAH swt keranaingkar akan suruhanNYA,
MALUlah kamu dengan RASULULLAH sawkerana meninggalkan sunahnya,
MALUlah kamu kerana lupa dan malasmembaca AL-QURAN,
MALUlah kamu kerana tidak menghormatiGURU,
MALUlah kamu kerana melawan kata IBUBAPA,
MALUlah kamu atas DOSA-DOSA kamu.
Maka percayalah bahawa MALU itu akanmenyelamatkan kita dari FAHSYAR danMUNGKAR!!!
SELOKA...TUTUPLAH AURAT...READ THIS...
SELOKA...TUTUPLAH AURAT!!
Tutup aurat satu tuntutan
Dalam keluarga wajib tekankan,
Kalau keras hati gunalah rotan,
Demi melaksanakan perintahTuhan.
Aurat ditutup mestilah lengkap,
Tudung litup termasuk skap,
Mini telekong pun orang cakap,
Elok dipandang tak payahpun 'make up'.
Berbaju kurung bukanlahmengurung
Lebih elok jubah jika direnung,
Kaki pula eloklah bersarung,
Agar syaitan susah nakbertarung.
Kalau wanita menutup aurat,
Orang jahat tak berani ngorat,
Bahkan boleh menjadi ubat,
Orang memandang bolehbertaubat.
Pakaian modern memanglah hebat,
Harganya mahal walaupun ketat,
Walaupun cantik tetapi singkat,
Orang memakai pun nampak pusat.
Berseluar ketat baju pun ketat,
Jarangnya pulak boleh dilihat,
Orang yang memakai memanglahdipandang jahat,
Dimurka oleh Allah, Rasul dan para malaikat.
Apa yang aneh bila dipandang,
Lengan pendek tapi bertudung,
Nampak seperti orang yangkudung,
Mata memandang ketiak sepertiikan lolong.
Lagilah aneh bila di fikir,
Baju kebaya tudung berukir,
Nampak dada iman terjungkir,
Kain terbelah peha terukir.
Bila ditanya kenapa begitu,
Dia kata fesyennya dah macamtu,
Di dalam hati niat tertentu,
Menggoda jantan sudahlah tentu.
Menutup aurat boleh berfesyen,
Tetapi jangan menunjuk eksyen,
Sesuaikan diri ikut profesyen,
Kalau dilaknat tak guna sesen.
Kalau nak "Make Up" biarlahpadan,
Jangan terlebih bila berdandan,
Minyak wangi juga fikirkan,
Bedak dan gincu sekadarkeperluan.
Kasut tinggi cuba jauhi,
Kerana ia melahirkan bunyi,
Boleh menarik perhatian lelaki,
Perbuatan ini dibenci Ilahi.
Apatah lagi menghentakkan kaki,
Menarik perhatian orang laki-laki,
Melenggok punggungmembinasakan diri,
Ustaz melihat pun separuh mati.
Buat apa nak tayang jambul,
Kecantikan tak usah ditonjol-tonjol,
Mahkota disimpan tak jadibisol,
Memakai tudung Islam tersimbol.
Selokaku ini bukanlah jahat,
Cuma saja mahu peringat,
Kepada semua para sahabat
Terutama sekali rakan sejawat.
Kalau nak ikut nasihat ini,
Jangan bertangguh ubahlah diri,
Benda yang baik tak payahdiuji,
Akan terserlah akhlak terpuji.
Kepada semua kawan lelaki,
Jangan tergelak wanita diperli,
Keluarga kita tak terkecuali,
Terutama sekali anak dan bini.
Sudahkah kita tanamkan iman,
Menutup aurat sepanjang badan,
Ke sana sini dilindungi Tuhan,
Keluarga menjadi contohteladan.
Setakat ini seloka kami,
Harap dapat menghibur hati,
Apa yang baik hendaklah ikuti,
kalau boleh seikhlas hati
Tutup aurat satu tuntutan
Dalam keluarga wajib tekankan,
Kalau keras hati gunalah rotan,
Demi melaksanakan perintahTuhan.
Aurat ditutup mestilah lengkap,
Tudung litup termasuk skap,
Mini telekong pun orang cakap,
Elok dipandang tak payahpun 'make up'.
Berbaju kurung bukanlahmengurung
Lebih elok jubah jika direnung,
Kaki pula eloklah bersarung,
Agar syaitan susah nakbertarung.
Kalau wanita menutup aurat,
Orang jahat tak berani ngorat,
Bahkan boleh menjadi ubat,
Orang memandang bolehbertaubat.
Pakaian modern memanglah hebat,
Harganya mahal walaupun ketat,
Walaupun cantik tetapi singkat,
Orang memakai pun nampak pusat.
Berseluar ketat baju pun ketat,
Jarangnya pulak boleh dilihat,
Orang yang memakai memanglahdipandang jahat,
Dimurka oleh Allah, Rasul dan para malaikat.
Apa yang aneh bila dipandang,
Lengan pendek tapi bertudung,
Nampak seperti orang yangkudung,
Mata memandang ketiak sepertiikan lolong.
Lagilah aneh bila di fikir,
Baju kebaya tudung berukir,
Nampak dada iman terjungkir,
Kain terbelah peha terukir.
Bila ditanya kenapa begitu,
Dia kata fesyennya dah macamtu,
Di dalam hati niat tertentu,
Menggoda jantan sudahlah tentu.
Menutup aurat boleh berfesyen,
Tetapi jangan menunjuk eksyen,
Sesuaikan diri ikut profesyen,
Kalau dilaknat tak guna sesen.
Kalau nak "Make Up" biarlahpadan,
Jangan terlebih bila berdandan,
Minyak wangi juga fikirkan,
Bedak dan gincu sekadarkeperluan.
Kasut tinggi cuba jauhi,
Kerana ia melahirkan bunyi,
Boleh menarik perhatian lelaki,
Perbuatan ini dibenci Ilahi.
Apatah lagi menghentakkan kaki,
Menarik perhatian orang laki-laki,
Melenggok punggungmembinasakan diri,
Ustaz melihat pun separuh mati.
Buat apa nak tayang jambul,
Kecantikan tak usah ditonjol-tonjol,
Mahkota disimpan tak jadibisol,
Memakai tudung Islam tersimbol.
Selokaku ini bukanlah jahat,
Cuma saja mahu peringat,
Kepada semua para sahabat
Terutama sekali rakan sejawat.
Kalau nak ikut nasihat ini,
Jangan bertangguh ubahlah diri,
Benda yang baik tak payahdiuji,
Akan terserlah akhlak terpuji.
Kepada semua kawan lelaki,
Jangan tergelak wanita diperli,
Keluarga kita tak terkecuali,
Terutama sekali anak dan bini.
Sudahkah kita tanamkan iman,
Menutup aurat sepanjang badan,
Ke sana sini dilindungi Tuhan,
Keluarga menjadi contohteladan.
Setakat ini seloka kami,
Harap dapat menghibur hati,
Apa yang baik hendaklah ikuti,
kalau boleh seikhlas hati
Saturday, April 28, 2007
tounge twisters
Babbling Baby Bobby
Ki-ki, the cuckoo, cuts capers
Don didn’t do the difficult dangerous deeds
Few folks find the fine flavor
Jim, Jill, Jane and Johnny jammed jollily
Little Lillian lets lazy lizards lie along the lily pads
Nine nice nieces never noticed nine nice nieces noticing nine nice nieces
Popular people, people popular places
Suzy Sampson is surrounded by her sousaphone
Sheila shall surely show her shining seashore shells
Little Teddy Tucker toots his tooter toute suite
Thick thistles throbbed in Thelma Thimble’s thumb
to all the guys out there...
Saya suka tengok jari awek saya...
Cantik betul... Sungguh!
Sampai takut nak pegang...
Bukan takut patah...
Tapi takut nanti jari kitorang takboleh tolong eachother
Di satu hari yang giler forever depanyang mahaEsa...
Saya suka tengok rambut awek saya...
Cantik betol... Sungguh!
Sebab tu saya belikan tudung...
Bukan sebab jeles orang lain tengokjugak....
Tapi takut nanti terbakar dek api neraka
Di suatu hari yang giler forever
Saya suka tengok body awek saya...
Cantik betol... Sungguh!
Sebab tu saya belikan dia telekong
Supaya mase die jumpa dengan Kekasihdie YangUtama
Dia lagi cantik dan berseri menghadapNya.
Saya pun tumpang dapat pahala.
Phehsyoknye...
Saya sedih tengok awek sayaTak tido, tak makan rindu kat saya...
Saya pun macam tu jugak,
Ada problem yang sama..Die tanya apa ubatnya?
Saya pun bagi die Quran untuk penenangjiwa...
Semoga lebih cintakan Nya dari saya...
Saya sedih tengok awek sayaSelalu pesan macam-macam kat saya...
"Makan, minum, drive elok-elok tau..
Nanti awak sakit saye susah ati bla blabla bla"katenya...
Tapi bila tengok movie sama-sama burnasarmaghrib gitu
Die tak kata satu aper pun...
Berdosanye saya....
Kesimpulannya saya memang sayang dia...Nak jumper die giler forever...Yang forever punye forever...Janji nak share heaven sama-sama...Bahagia selamanya...Dosa sendiri pun infiniti...Nak tanggung dosa dia lagi pulak lepasni...Semoga kami dapat bersama selamanyananti......
P/S - andai anda seorang wanitamuslimah...Mesti seronok kan kalau pasangan kitaberfikirancamtu...Then kalu anda seorang muslim...Apa kata tanamkan dalam hati camtu...Cinta tu anugerah Allah...Pandai-pandai la kita menjaga nikmatAllah itu ye..Semoga saya pun ambikiktibar gak...
Cantik betul... Sungguh!
Sampai takut nak pegang...
Bukan takut patah...
Tapi takut nanti jari kitorang takboleh tolong eachother
Di satu hari yang giler forever depanyang mahaEsa...
Saya suka tengok rambut awek saya...
Cantik betol... Sungguh!
Sebab tu saya belikan tudung...
Bukan sebab jeles orang lain tengokjugak....
Tapi takut nanti terbakar dek api neraka
Di suatu hari yang giler forever
Saya suka tengok body awek saya...
Cantik betol... Sungguh!
Sebab tu saya belikan dia telekong
Supaya mase die jumpa dengan Kekasihdie YangUtama
Dia lagi cantik dan berseri menghadapNya.
Saya pun tumpang dapat pahala.
Phehsyoknye...
Saya sedih tengok awek sayaTak tido, tak makan rindu kat saya...
Saya pun macam tu jugak,
Ada problem yang sama..Die tanya apa ubatnya?
Saya pun bagi die Quran untuk penenangjiwa...
Semoga lebih cintakan Nya dari saya...
Saya sedih tengok awek sayaSelalu pesan macam-macam kat saya...
"Makan, minum, drive elok-elok tau..
Nanti awak sakit saye susah ati bla blabla bla"katenya...
Tapi bila tengok movie sama-sama burnasarmaghrib gitu
Die tak kata satu aper pun...
Berdosanye saya....
Kesimpulannya saya memang sayang dia...Nak jumper die giler forever...Yang forever punye forever...Janji nak share heaven sama-sama...Bahagia selamanya...Dosa sendiri pun infiniti...Nak tanggung dosa dia lagi pulak lepasni...Semoga kami dapat bersama selamanyananti......
P/S - andai anda seorang wanitamuslimah...Mesti seronok kan kalau pasangan kitaberfikirancamtu...Then kalu anda seorang muslim...Apa kata tanamkan dalam hati camtu...Cinta tu anugerah Allah...Pandai-pandai la kita menjaga nikmatAllah itu ye..Semoga saya pun ambikiktibar gak...
Monday, April 23, 2007
OPERATION DEATH
Below is a must read poem for all fellow
Muslims. O Readers!! take a moral from this poem, Because you never know when
it's your time to go.
Muslims. O Readers!! take a moral from this poem, Because you never know when
it's your time to go.
OPERATION DEATH
’Twas early in the morning at four. When death knocked upon a bedroom door.
”Who is there?” the sleeping one cried. ”I’m Izrael, let me inside.”
At once, the man began to shiver, as one sweating in deadly fever,
he shouted to his sleeping wife, ”Don’t let him take away my life.”
”Please go away, O Angel of Death! Leave me alone, I’m not ready yet.
My family on me depend, give me a chance, O please prepense!”
The Angel knocked again and again, ”Friend! I’ll take your life without a pain,
’Tis your soul Allah require, I come not with my own desire.
Bewildered, the man began to cry, ”O Angel! I’m so afraid to die
I’ll give you gold and be your slave, don’t send me to the unlit grave.”
”Let me in, O Friend!” the Angel said, ”Open the door, get up from your bed.
If you do not allow me in,I will walk through it, like a Jinn.”
The man held a gun in his right hand, ready to defy the Angel’s stand,
”I’ll point my gun, towards your head. You dare come in, I’ll shoot you dead.”
By now, the Angel was in the room, Saying, “O Friend! prepare for your doom.
Foolish man, Angels never die, Put down your gun and do not sigh.”
”Why are you afraid! Tell me O man, to die according to Allah’s plan?
>Come, smile at me, do not be grim, be happy to return to Him.”
”O Angel! I bow my head in shame, I had no time to take Allah’s name.
From morn till dusk I made my wealth, not even caring for my health.”
”Allah’s commands I never obeyed nor five times a day I ever prayed.
A Ramadan came and Ramadan went but no time had I to repent.”
”The Haj was already fard on me But I would not part with my money. All
charities I did ignore taking usury more and more.”
”Sometimes I sipped my favorite wine with flirting women I sat to dine. O
Angel! I appeal to you spare my life for a year or two.”
”The Laws of Qur’an I will obey, I’ll begin Salat this very day. My Fast
and Haj, I will complete, and keep away from self conceit.”
”I will refrain from usury, and give all my wealth to charity, wine and
wenches I will detest, Allah’s oneness I will attest.”
”We Angels do what Allah demands, we cannot go against His commands
Death is ordained for everyone, father, mother, daughter or son.”
”I’m afraid, this moment is your last, now be reminded, of your past.
>I do understand your fears but it is now too late for tears.”
”You lived in this world, two score and more, Never did you, your people
adore. Your parents, you did not obey, hungry beggars, you turned away.”
”Your two ill-gotten, female offsprings, in night-clubs, for livelihood
they sing. Instead of making more Muslims, you made your children
non-Muslims.”
”You ignored the Mu’athin’s Athaan, nor did you read the Holy Qur’an.
Breaking promises all your life, backbiting friends, and causing strife.”
”From hoarded goods, great profits you made, and your poor workers, you
underpaid. Horses and cards were your leisure, money-making was your
pleasure.”
”You ate vitamins and grew more fat, with the very sick, you never sat. A
pint of blood you never gave, which could a little baby save.”
”O human, you have done enough wrong, you bought good properties for a
song. When the farmers appealed to you, you did not have mercy, ‘tis >true.”
”Paradise for you? I cannot tell, undoubtedly you will dwell in hell.
There’s no time for you to repent, I’ll take your soul for which I’m sent.”
The ending, however, is very sad. Eventually the man became mad.
With a cry, he jumped out of bed. And suddenly, he fell down dead.
O Reader! take a moral from here, you never know, your end may be near.
Change your living and make amends, for heaven, on your deeds depends.
Thursday, April 19, 2007
JURNAL 3
Bengbeng 06 Jan 2007 04:32 pm
Sex education in Malaysian schools
So far, Benghui hasn’t asked me about sex. However he did make sounds when Colin Firth got close to Renee Zelweger in a scene. It startled me as I didn’t realize he understood the meaning of courtship rituals. It was from the movie ‘ Bridget Jones : The Edge of Reason ‘.
Pic courtesy of the Borneo Post 04/01/07
Education Minister Datuk Seri Hishamuddin Tun Hussein had announced recently that the cabinet had approved the Guidelines on Reproductive Health and Social Education - sex education in schools.
As expected it produced a wide spectrum of reactions from society from those who advocated transparency to the other end who felt that sex education should come naturally as children come of age.
The thrusts of the programme are Human Development, relationship, Marriage and Family, Personal Management Skills, Health and Sexual Behaviour and Community and Culture.
Under the plan, sex education will start for preschoolers from the age of four up to teenage and young adults. Subjects will include rape, sexual abuse, abortion, infanticide and the spread of HIV/AIDS .
As a child, most of us adults never had sex education. I still remember the pains, the aches, confusions and the guilt I felt as I was growing up. I never had any body to counsel me or tell me about sex.
All kinds of rubbish I heard was accepted as truth. Please watch the Singaporean movie, ‘ Little Kids not Stupid ll ‘ to get a general picture of how taboo the topic is among Malaysian and Singaporean families alike. The reproductive system was taught by a lady science teacher who skimmed through the topic as she was as embarrassed as us students.
At the age of eleven I attended a movie that showed a woman strip tease dancer. Nobody stopped me from entering and it was probably ‘general audience’ rated.
I saw my first adult movie at a pub. It was screened openly and I remember asking myself…why are these people not looking concerned or shocked? It was sordid and dirty and probably downloaded from some third-rate website free. All those who were there were busy eating and drinking and none seemed to be even watching it.
We learned what we did from friends, from books and from pornography. Kids today have more exposure to the real world. How many parents actually oversee their children’s surfing habits?
Do they know where their kids are at any given moment? Most parents are too engrossed in the race for the mighty ringgit in the race for survival. Thus, ignorant kids can get into a lot of trouble. We cannot totally protect them but at least we can arm them with knowledge.
Examples of reactions from the public on sex education in Malaysian schools (from the Borneo Post 4/1/07):1. I am not aware.2. It is good to teach them the difference between boys and girlsand know where they came from.3. Transparency is important.4. Important to learn to respect the opposite sex and respecttheir bodies.5. It’s a good move.6. Academicians should know better on how to approach thesubject with children.7. Children without knowledge can easily make irreversiblemistakes.8. Subject matter must not be too heavy.9. Positive move to educate and lead the young.10. Saves parents of the embarrassment of doing the jobthemselves.11. School subjects more important.12. It remains to be implemented and I am a little worried.
REFLECTION
It’s time that Malaysian realizes that sex should no longer be a taboo topic to be discussed; in fact it is an important educational subject that needs to be understood. The cultures of just keeping quit or assume that it’s something you’ll learn as you grow up; it’s just not practical nor is it applicable anymore in this globalization era. With just a click of the mouse, children nowadays are more exposed to sex than their parents realize. Many are curious about sex, and many experiment, thus it is our responsibility to provide them with the right education about sex.
It is fair to just blame the teenagers who was influenced towards sex, when everyday they are force-feed through the media, listen to songs about sex, watch shows that encourage sex, what do you expect them to become? Wrong information is always shown by the media but nobody is telling anybody that it’s wrong. To them the consequences can be put aside, what matters is that as long as they make money rolling, their business is safe. Kids are acting like what they see in cinema, under their parents’ nose. But their parent doesn’t take the time to explain, they aren’t even paying attention.
Children should be taught from young to respect their bodies and respect the difference between opposite sexes. Without sufficient understanding they are exposed to sex abuse, rape, sexual harassment, unwanted pregnancy, abortion, homosexual, pornography syndicate, and other social illness. A sexually educated person will have certain personal qualities first, appropriate self-assertiveness in resisting peer pressure and in saying ‘No’ to unwanted sexual experience. Second, a sexually educated person will know how to avoid pregnancy, contraception. Third, a sexually educated person will have certain skills for example, the skill of responsible sexual decision making.
According to Michael J. Reiss, on implementing sex education, schools should adopt to values education. Although on the matter of instilling good values is a lifetime process, starting from the earliest childhood until the end of our lives, it’s better late then never. Therefore it’s the school’s responsibility to influence the process by providing opportunities for discussion, reflection and increase understanding. Michael J. Reiss had also drawn 3 distinct roles for the school. First, is to reflect the values of society. Second, is to fill in gaps in the student’s knowledge and understanding. Third, is to encourage children to choose a rational path through the variety of influences that impinge on their experience.
Some believe that when a person explains sexual matters to a teenager without a formal education program and without consent from the parents that it is inappropriate, and may in some cases be interpreted as child grooming. Not all parents agree and trust that sex education should be taught in schools. Some are merely afraid about the consequences once students know about sex, they might take risks and experiment. Second, the parents scared that the students will search to the pornography sources to explore how to do sex with partner or even alone. Third, they scared when their children are exposed to the contraceptives; they tend to implement safe sex with their partner. Curiosity kills the cat.
Multiple factors influence teenage sexual behaviour, besides sex education. The way parents bring up children influences their sexual behaviour. many religious conservatives believe that sexuality is a subject that should not be taught at all. They believe that the longer a teenager is kept unaware of sexuality, the less likely they will become involved in sexual behavior. Other religious conservatives believe that sexual knowledge is unavoidable, and so desire to teach curricula based on abstinence.
In Islamic perspective, it is not suitable to teach sex education in the early stage of age. Sex education will be something weird to the children because they are innocent. In Islam, when the children are two years old until seven years old, parents must provide them Islamic Education. First, the children must know about Al-Quran and As-Sunnah. Parents must teach them how to pray, show to them good behavior and teach them about ‘aurat’. This is very important to make sure that their children know the boundaries between different genders. So, the children will become an obedient slave to Allah and respect the others.
Islam teaches the people to respect each other. This had stated in Surah An-Nur (24:30) “say to the believing men that they should lower their gave and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and God is well acquainted with all that they do.” The rule modesty applies to men as well as women. A brazen stare by a man at a woman (or even at men) is a breach of refine manners. Where sex is concerned, modesty is not only good form: it is not only guard the weaker sex, but also to guard the spiritual good of the stronger sex.
Not only have that, in our research in Holy Quran also stressed to everyone about the priority to leave “zina.” This one had stated in Surah Al-Mukminun (23: 5) “who abstain from sex.” That means the muslim must guard himself against every kind of sex abuse or sex perversion. The new psychology associated with the name of Frued traces many of our hidden motives to sex, and it is common knowledge that our refinement or degradation may be measured by the hidden workings of our sex instincts. But even the natural and lawful exercise of sex is restricted to the marriage bond, under which the rights of both parties are duly regulated and maintained.
The punishment for people who involve in sexual abuse had stated in Surah An-Nur (24: 2) “the woman and man guilty for adultery or fornication, flog each of them with a hundred stripes: let not compassion move you in their case, in a matter prescribe by god, if ye believe in God and Last Day: and let a party Of the Believers Witness their punishment.”
In Islam, sexual abuse, gay, lesbian, sexual harassment and rape is “zina”. “Zina” includes sexual intercourse between a man and woman not married to each other. If therefore applies both to adultery (which implies that one or both of the parties are married to a person or persons other than one concerned) and to fornication, which in it strict signification, implies that both parties are unmarried. The law of marriage and divorce is made easy in Islam, so that there may be less temptation for intercourse outside the well-defined incidents of marriage. This makes for greater self-respect for both man and woman. Other sex offences are also punishable, but his section applies strictly to zina as above defined. The punishment should be open, in order to deterrent.
Islam commands sex purity, for men and for women, at all times – before marriage, during marriage and after marriage. Those guilty of illicit practices are shut out of the marriage circle of chaste man and woman. Islam is very beautiful religion. The rules are easy to understand. In Malaysia, majority of the community is Muslims. In my opinion teaching sex education must go in line with Islamic education to all the Muslim students and by practising Islamic values can help improve the quality of society. InsyaAllah.
CONCLUSION
Consequently, I would like to highlight my opinion that in order to make sex education effective, to achieve the aim of educating about the subject, it must be taught based on what Islam had outlined in al-Quran and Sunnah. We have been struggling with introducing sex education into schools for years now and there seems to be further delay even though the modules are supposedly ready to be tested. Why? Based on a research finding shows that community attitudes towards sex shape the framework in which sex education programmes are delivered. Their delivery and effectiveness is directly related to the cultural environment.
Sex education in Malaysian schools
So far, Benghui hasn’t asked me about sex. However he did make sounds when Colin Firth got close to Renee Zelweger in a scene. It startled me as I didn’t realize he understood the meaning of courtship rituals. It was from the movie ‘ Bridget Jones : The Edge of Reason ‘.
Pic courtesy of the Borneo Post 04/01/07
Education Minister Datuk Seri Hishamuddin Tun Hussein had announced recently that the cabinet had approved the Guidelines on Reproductive Health and Social Education - sex education in schools.
As expected it produced a wide spectrum of reactions from society from those who advocated transparency to the other end who felt that sex education should come naturally as children come of age.
The thrusts of the programme are Human Development, relationship, Marriage and Family, Personal Management Skills, Health and Sexual Behaviour and Community and Culture.
Under the plan, sex education will start for preschoolers from the age of four up to teenage and young adults. Subjects will include rape, sexual abuse, abortion, infanticide and the spread of HIV/AIDS .
As a child, most of us adults never had sex education. I still remember the pains, the aches, confusions and the guilt I felt as I was growing up. I never had any body to counsel me or tell me about sex.
All kinds of rubbish I heard was accepted as truth. Please watch the Singaporean movie, ‘ Little Kids not Stupid ll ‘ to get a general picture of how taboo the topic is among Malaysian and Singaporean families alike. The reproductive system was taught by a lady science teacher who skimmed through the topic as she was as embarrassed as us students.
At the age of eleven I attended a movie that showed a woman strip tease dancer. Nobody stopped me from entering and it was probably ‘general audience’ rated.
I saw my first adult movie at a pub. It was screened openly and I remember asking myself…why are these people not looking concerned or shocked? It was sordid and dirty and probably downloaded from some third-rate website free. All those who were there were busy eating and drinking and none seemed to be even watching it.
We learned what we did from friends, from books and from pornography. Kids today have more exposure to the real world. How many parents actually oversee their children’s surfing habits?
Do they know where their kids are at any given moment? Most parents are too engrossed in the race for the mighty ringgit in the race for survival. Thus, ignorant kids can get into a lot of trouble. We cannot totally protect them but at least we can arm them with knowledge.
Examples of reactions from the public on sex education in Malaysian schools (from the Borneo Post 4/1/07):1. I am not aware.2. It is good to teach them the difference between boys and girlsand know where they came from.3. Transparency is important.4. Important to learn to respect the opposite sex and respecttheir bodies.5. It’s a good move.6. Academicians should know better on how to approach thesubject with children.7. Children without knowledge can easily make irreversiblemistakes.8. Subject matter must not be too heavy.9. Positive move to educate and lead the young.10. Saves parents of the embarrassment of doing the jobthemselves.11. School subjects more important.12. It remains to be implemented and I am a little worried.
REFLECTION
It’s time that Malaysian realizes that sex should no longer be a taboo topic to be discussed; in fact it is an important educational subject that needs to be understood. The cultures of just keeping quit or assume that it’s something you’ll learn as you grow up; it’s just not practical nor is it applicable anymore in this globalization era. With just a click of the mouse, children nowadays are more exposed to sex than their parents realize. Many are curious about sex, and many experiment, thus it is our responsibility to provide them with the right education about sex.
It is fair to just blame the teenagers who was influenced towards sex, when everyday they are force-feed through the media, listen to songs about sex, watch shows that encourage sex, what do you expect them to become? Wrong information is always shown by the media but nobody is telling anybody that it’s wrong. To them the consequences can be put aside, what matters is that as long as they make money rolling, their business is safe. Kids are acting like what they see in cinema, under their parents’ nose. But their parent doesn’t take the time to explain, they aren’t even paying attention.
Children should be taught from young to respect their bodies and respect the difference between opposite sexes. Without sufficient understanding they are exposed to sex abuse, rape, sexual harassment, unwanted pregnancy, abortion, homosexual, pornography syndicate, and other social illness. A sexually educated person will have certain personal qualities first, appropriate self-assertiveness in resisting peer pressure and in saying ‘No’ to unwanted sexual experience. Second, a sexually educated person will know how to avoid pregnancy, contraception. Third, a sexually educated person will have certain skills for example, the skill of responsible sexual decision making.
According to Michael J. Reiss, on implementing sex education, schools should adopt to values education. Although on the matter of instilling good values is a lifetime process, starting from the earliest childhood until the end of our lives, it’s better late then never. Therefore it’s the school’s responsibility to influence the process by providing opportunities for discussion, reflection and increase understanding. Michael J. Reiss had also drawn 3 distinct roles for the school. First, is to reflect the values of society. Second, is to fill in gaps in the student’s knowledge and understanding. Third, is to encourage children to choose a rational path through the variety of influences that impinge on their experience.
Some believe that when a person explains sexual matters to a teenager without a formal education program and without consent from the parents that it is inappropriate, and may in some cases be interpreted as child grooming. Not all parents agree and trust that sex education should be taught in schools. Some are merely afraid about the consequences once students know about sex, they might take risks and experiment. Second, the parents scared that the students will search to the pornography sources to explore how to do sex with partner or even alone. Third, they scared when their children are exposed to the contraceptives; they tend to implement safe sex with their partner. Curiosity kills the cat.
Multiple factors influence teenage sexual behaviour, besides sex education. The way parents bring up children influences their sexual behaviour. many religious conservatives believe that sexuality is a subject that should not be taught at all. They believe that the longer a teenager is kept unaware of sexuality, the less likely they will become involved in sexual behavior. Other religious conservatives believe that sexual knowledge is unavoidable, and so desire to teach curricula based on abstinence.
In Islamic perspective, it is not suitable to teach sex education in the early stage of age. Sex education will be something weird to the children because they are innocent. In Islam, when the children are two years old until seven years old, parents must provide them Islamic Education. First, the children must know about Al-Quran and As-Sunnah. Parents must teach them how to pray, show to them good behavior and teach them about ‘aurat’. This is very important to make sure that their children know the boundaries between different genders. So, the children will become an obedient slave to Allah and respect the others.
Islam teaches the people to respect each other. This had stated in Surah An-Nur (24:30) “say to the believing men that they should lower their gave and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and God is well acquainted with all that they do.” The rule modesty applies to men as well as women. A brazen stare by a man at a woman (or even at men) is a breach of refine manners. Where sex is concerned, modesty is not only good form: it is not only guard the weaker sex, but also to guard the spiritual good of the stronger sex.
Not only have that, in our research in Holy Quran also stressed to everyone about the priority to leave “zina.” This one had stated in Surah Al-Mukminun (23: 5) “who abstain from sex.” That means the muslim must guard himself against every kind of sex abuse or sex perversion. The new psychology associated with the name of Frued traces many of our hidden motives to sex, and it is common knowledge that our refinement or degradation may be measured by the hidden workings of our sex instincts. But even the natural and lawful exercise of sex is restricted to the marriage bond, under which the rights of both parties are duly regulated and maintained.
The punishment for people who involve in sexual abuse had stated in Surah An-Nur (24: 2) “the woman and man guilty for adultery or fornication, flog each of them with a hundred stripes: let not compassion move you in their case, in a matter prescribe by god, if ye believe in God and Last Day: and let a party Of the Believers Witness their punishment.”
In Islam, sexual abuse, gay, lesbian, sexual harassment and rape is “zina”. “Zina” includes sexual intercourse between a man and woman not married to each other. If therefore applies both to adultery (which implies that one or both of the parties are married to a person or persons other than one concerned) and to fornication, which in it strict signification, implies that both parties are unmarried. The law of marriage and divorce is made easy in Islam, so that there may be less temptation for intercourse outside the well-defined incidents of marriage. This makes for greater self-respect for both man and woman. Other sex offences are also punishable, but his section applies strictly to zina as above defined. The punishment should be open, in order to deterrent.
Islam commands sex purity, for men and for women, at all times – before marriage, during marriage and after marriage. Those guilty of illicit practices are shut out of the marriage circle of chaste man and woman. Islam is very beautiful religion. The rules are easy to understand. In Malaysia, majority of the community is Muslims. In my opinion teaching sex education must go in line with Islamic education to all the Muslim students and by practising Islamic values can help improve the quality of society. InsyaAllah.
CONCLUSION
Consequently, I would like to highlight my opinion that in order to make sex education effective, to achieve the aim of educating about the subject, it must be taught based on what Islam had outlined in al-Quran and Sunnah. We have been struggling with introducing sex education into schools for years now and there seems to be further delay even though the modules are supposedly ready to be tested. Why? Based on a research finding shows that community attitudes towards sex shape the framework in which sex education programmes are delivered. Their delivery and effectiveness is directly related to the cultural environment.
Wednesday, April 11, 2007
REFLECTION - CRITICAL READING SKILLS
Main idea, pattern of organization, fact or opinion, bias, tone, purpose.
- I do understand all the topics that i had learnt. I just need to do more exercises to master the topics because for me, it is not enough just to understand without practice.
- For me, the topic that I hard to master is main idea, bias and allusion. The easiest topic is fact or opinion.
- All skills is the most useful in reading because if I do not understand or know one of the skills, it will be hard for me to read a critical essay.
- I will probably apply the main idea skills.
- I tend to do the exercises and ask Mr. Izaham to tackle the problem of a difficult skill. For example, I don't understand about allusion and I will ask Mr. Izaham to explain to me and give other example of allusion.
- Critical reading is to know what to or what not to believe in any articles and essay.
- critical reading must be important for me to understand the content of my future references which will be more difficult and challenging.
- Normally, I applied main idea skill in my journal.
REFLECTION - BLOGGING
Honestly, before participating in Mr. Izaham class, I never use a blog to post my assignment. I thought that not everyone can make the blog and only special people can make it like lecturer, society, artists and others. Yeah, it sounds like I am stupid about the existence of blogs. However, I always view other people blogs and dream to have one. It really seems like Cinderella's dreams to meet her prince charming. Now, i have my own blog. it was interesting because i can share my point of view, assignments and my reflection with my friends.
Using blogs in reading class always help me to improve my reading skills. First, all the notes provided in the blogs. Second, it will be easy for me to find references for my critical reading. Third, I can practice by answering all the exercises in the blog. Fourth, I can read my friends' blogs and give my comment. Fifth, I had improved my reading skills through the comments given to me.
In that case, I suggest to all the teachers, lecturers, students and anybody to have their own blog like what Japan had implemented to it's citizens. It is because blog is the easiest medium to share our reflection, lifestyle, tips and even knowledge with all the community in the world. The students also can voice out their problems in certain subject that they do not understand. Through blogs, we can having a forum and discussion with our friends in all over the world. Thus, it can help the students to widen their knowledge in many issues.
The feature(s) of the blogs I find is the most helpful are the notes given by Mr. Izaham, tutorial and exercises, students blogs and online newspapers and magazines. Even though, blog is not everything. Blog cannot explain to me specifically the topic given without having a lectured session in class. It might help me to understand the topic deeply after the class session. For me, I need someone to guide me face to face and blog is my reference and source to polish my reading skills. Therefore, I love the class session more than just to view the blog. I love to see the way Mr. Izaham communicate and lecture my friend and I in class. It is more interesting than view the blog.
All my friends enjoying using the blog in class. I love to read Afiqah, Herne and Ruqayyah point of view. I love the contents in their blog because it was interesting. My friends said that my blog was interesting, full of passion and well thought. Some of them did said that I have to improve my grammar because thre were lots of grammatical error in my essei. Anyway, thanks to everyone who had commented my blog. I really appreciate that.
I will always continue using a blog for any other purposes. I will share with all of you about my next experience and any latest achievement in my blog. InsyaAllah...
Using blogs in reading class always help me to improve my reading skills. First, all the notes provided in the blogs. Second, it will be easy for me to find references for my critical reading. Third, I can practice by answering all the exercises in the blog. Fourth, I can read my friends' blogs and give my comment. Fifth, I had improved my reading skills through the comments given to me.
In that case, I suggest to all the teachers, lecturers, students and anybody to have their own blog like what Japan had implemented to it's citizens. It is because blog is the easiest medium to share our reflection, lifestyle, tips and even knowledge with all the community in the world. The students also can voice out their problems in certain subject that they do not understand. Through blogs, we can having a forum and discussion with our friends in all over the world. Thus, it can help the students to widen their knowledge in many issues.
The feature(s) of the blogs I find is the most helpful are the notes given by Mr. Izaham, tutorial and exercises, students blogs and online newspapers and magazines. Even though, blog is not everything. Blog cannot explain to me specifically the topic given without having a lectured session in class. It might help me to understand the topic deeply after the class session. For me, I need someone to guide me face to face and blog is my reference and source to polish my reading skills. Therefore, I love the class session more than just to view the blog. I love to see the way Mr. Izaham communicate and lecture my friend and I in class. It is more interesting than view the blog.
All my friends enjoying using the blog in class. I love to read Afiqah, Herne and Ruqayyah point of view. I love the contents in their blog because it was interesting. My friends said that my blog was interesting, full of passion and well thought. Some of them did said that I have to improve my grammar because thre were lots of grammatical error in my essei. Anyway, thanks to everyone who had commented my blog. I really appreciate that.
I will always continue using a blog for any other purposes. I will share with all of you about my next experience and any latest achievement in my blog. InsyaAllah...
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
PURPOSE AND TONES
The gray, bare-walled room, the size of a prison cell, is more funereal than celebratory considering three people in it were there for a family reunion.
Purpose: to inform
Tone: mournful and sorrowful
Clues: more funereal than celebratory considering
He introduces his side of the family, who take deep bows, then reaches to his left for the photo of his recently departed 88-year-old father.
Purpose: to inform
Tone: formal, stiff
Clues: introduces, take deep bow
Of course, God and country, are taboo topics during these mostly tear-filled reunions, but almost all the North Korean families praise Kim Jong Il at least several times during the two-hour live broadcast.
Purpose: to persuade
Tone: Optimistic, positive, encouraging
Clues: Of course and almost all the North Korean families praise Kim Jong II
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